Archive for the ‘EFT’ Category

I haven’t been blogging for some time cos I have been stuck in misery and apathy for the past few weeks and even writing, which is my well-loved hobby, felt like medicine that was too bitter to take.

I’m back thanks to Siew Fan, who reminded me that writing is a good way to reconnect with myself, and who knows, one day it might even be transformed into a book.

Yes, writing has always been healing for me, and now that I’m back here, I relish this feeling of having my fingers move all over the keyboard, and to see my thoughts being translated into print on the computer. Writing… i’m back! I don;tk now about it being transformed into a book one day, but i do know that this is a medicine which is greatly healing and sorely missed.

Today I had a great session with Siew Fan. She passed me the link to her blog where she had posted information on the Enneagram, and the kind of issues that each of the 9 personality types has. You may view it here: http://www.healingenergytherapies.com/tag/enneagram-tapping/.

I must say, it’s a fantastic idea to tap along with the statements. Even for an EFT fanatic like me, it can sometimes be very frustrating to not know what to tap on. Even though I know that the words are not the key, they still provide a kind of anchor to grab on to the issue with. If the emotion is there, then it’s alright, but most of the time I’m so disconnected from my own emotions that tapping without words feels like a trial and error kind of deal.

So anyway I tapped for almost an hour today using the statements for Type 4, 6 and 9, since my scores for the test were the highest for these 3 categories. I think i’m most likely a 9 cos I resonated most with the sentences from there.

It is after the hour-long tapping (yes… I can be a marathon tapper!) that I finally found the enrgy to write my newsletter again. So my goal would be to tap on this everyday, and also to tap along with affirmation cards that I bought sometime back and haven’t used in a while.

It’s been a long time since i felt this way. Grounded, calm and energised. Thank goodness I listened to my heart and made the hefty investment in Siew Fan’s healing. She really knows what she is doing and unlike other healing sessions that I have attended, I feel like I am actually making progress in my healing.

Well, the road ahead is a long one, but I think i’m on track – again!


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In meditation, I was actively allowing messages to come from my Divine self… and one of them was to do yoga after meditation. However, instead of being a firm, clear voice, it was a hesitating wavering voice that comes in the form of “Can I do yoga… erm… after meditation” kind of thing.

The Divine never speaks in such an apologetic manner, and so i decided this must be a part of me that needs healing.

It turned out to be a 6-year old self who was still feeling unaccepted and unsure of herself. I heard the planitive complaint, “I’m scared.”

Ok, so let’s do tapping on that! “Even though I’m scared, I love and forgive myself.” Rather than focusing intensively on the words, I kept the picture of my 6 year old self in mind, and I vaguely felt her feelings of insecurity. To check my progress (which i’m often lazy about!), I rated the fear, and it was 8 out of 10.

As I tapped the points, I felt the numbers coming down… 7…6…and i kept saying the Ho’oponopono phrases to this little one within me. “I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you” as earnestly as I could (must admit sometimes it’s tempting to just go through the motions of saying it without relly meaning it!)

Finally, I was at a 5, and I was stuck. Then I asked myself, what am I scared of? Ahh… all the fears were coming up, and I began to see how come I have been avoiding certain business decisions, and procrastinating on tasks which I know would move forward in my private healing practice.

Let’s see now.. there was the fear that other people would get jealous of me… tap tap tap…

And the fear that I would become egoistic… tap tap tap… (and there is a joker part of me that dryly said, ‘But you ARE egoistic already”… o-kaaayy….thanks for that!)

And the fear that I would not be able to handle my power. Somewhere inside me there was a vague feeling that I abused my power in a past life which had a disastrous consequence…. alright, tap tap tap!

Last but not least, and this may come as a surprise to some of you but not to me, there was the fear of being executed! Lots of healers were also healers in previous lifetimes, and there is this pervasive fear of being condemned and put to death due to the ignorance of the people of those times. This , I would guess, is one of the main reasons why so many healers choose to remain small, even though on the soul level, it probably frustrated them to no end cos they consciously or unconsciously know that they have so much light and love to give to the world. Ok, not just they, but me included, for I struggle between my fears and my wish to serve… and it can be !(#!(@*!-ly frustrating. 😛

So, more tap tap tap…and using my bodywork techniques from my past life regression training, I pulled away imaginary ropes that were used to hang me in previous lives (one of which I experienced when I had past life regression therapy for myself). Normally it’s done with facilitation from another therapist, but oh well, i’m alone, so i have no choice but to lead my own release.

And it worked! The fear dropped to a 3, and while it’s not a 0, I have a feeling that moving my fear all the way from a 8 to 3 is going to bring about a significant in my business decisions and actions.

Was it easy to heal myself? Yes, and it’s only because I had the strong intention for healing and I allowed myself listen to my intuition and let it guide me through this session.

Can you heal yourself? Of course you can. Most of the session was done with EFT, and a bit of common sense on what to do next. If you know EFT and willing to trust your body wisdom, then you have all the tools you need to self-heal.

With that said, I intend to continue my healing sessions with another EFT practitioner so that I can clear away that 3 for good. No man is an island, and while I believe strongly in everybody’s ability to self heal, it is also recommended to reach out for help, whether it is from a friend or a professional, for there are tons of gunk buried deep within that can only be cleared with the help of an objective skilled practitioner.

So go ahead… heal yourself, AND invest the time and money for healing session with someone else. I used to worry about the costs of the sessions but now, I choose to see it as an investment.  I have read sufficient stories written by EF T practitioners who work with clients who are 60 and above… and if you ask me if I want to carry all these emotional gunk for another 30-40 years before I finally get sick and tired enough to see someone for healing, I say, no thanks. The sooner the better, and the more I would have to contribute to the world.

It’s your choice…but I can gaurantee that if you work with a skilled practitioner, the sessions you have with him or her would be the best investment you can ever have in your life.

What is the price of your freedom and inner peace? You decide!

In the meantime, I’m off to enjoy the rest of the day and perhaps splurge on an icecream treat for this 6-year old within me. 🙂

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A client told me about a sexual trauma that she had last year.

“But I don’t feel anything about it”, she said to me insistently, and was almost unwilling to do tapping on it. When I asked her to check with her inner eye, she could imagine a rusty U-shaped metal shield placed around her heart.

I asked if it was alright for us to accept this “dont feel anything” feeling and yet still proceed with the therapy.

When we explored further and did more tapping, WOAH… everything came wooshing out. There was lots of hatred and anger (for good reason), and she had a good time punching a pillow, imagining that pillow to be the man who sexually abused her.

After all the tapping we did on what turned out to be a myraid of emotions,  we ended the session with her feeling like she could now forgive herself for what happened. Best of all, she was willing to imagine the man in her mind and send forgiveness from her heart, which she imagined to be like an open flower.

This case was interesting for me, because I also often “don’t feel anything”, and yet I know there are issues hidden deep within me because of my avoidance to certain situations.

A healer told me that I am one of those people who is hardest to heal, because there hasn’t been individual HUGE traumas in my life. Rather, I go through the kind of typical childhood where everyday, people unknowingly hurt me with insensitive remarks and behaviour. As a result, there are tiny invisible cuts all over me. Each of them barely hurting, and yet as a whole, causing me deep emotional pain.

Yet, I am hopeful, that just as how I have helped this client to overcome the protective shield that she put around her heart because of her fear of getting hurt again, I will be able to heal myself by going to other professional healers and also using EFT in my self-healing.

Sometimes we think that we are ok because we “don’t feel anything”. However there is a real difference between detachment and apathy. When we are detached, we are still able to reach out with compassion, and at the same time, maintain a clear boundary between oneself and the other party. True detachment is the kind that looks upon the situation with warmth and care, and yet not be drawn into it in a negative way.

False detachment is when we HAVE to look away and we can’t bear to face it, because of the unconscious fear that it may remind us of old hurts and pains. And since the life lesson has not been learnt, the same problem manifests in our lives again and again, taking different forms and shapes. And the thing is, we can never really run away from it.

But there is no need to. Thanks to simple tools like EFT, it IS possible to face the pain and let go of it.

Let’s start by embracing this shield that we may have put up around our heart. In your mind, you may say “Thank you shield for having protected me all this while. I needed you around at that time, but right now, I’m ready to let you go”. If that statement was easy to make, then you are ready to face those inner demons with tools to help with releasing them. Face each emotion one by one, and call out the situations that have led to them, and release them with EFT. If this is not easy for you, find a professional EFT practitioner to go through the process with you. We are never alone in this world, but sometimes help can only come if we reach out to ask for it.

If that statement was not so easy to make, tap! “Even though I still need to hold on to this shield, I deeply and completely accept myself, and I am willing to access all the resources within and around me to protect myself in new, healthier ways so that I can move through life with greater grace and freedom!”

Take off the shield and watch those inner demons of the past fly towards light and dissipate in love!

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